12 Considerations for Farming with Your Partner: Making a Living While Building a Life



You’ve fallen in love and you’re daring to the to do the unthinkable. After talking about it, interning or WOOFing on other farms, managing operations, or even jumping in without any previous growing experience at all - you’re going to start a farm.  Who better to start it with than the person that you love so much? After about a decade of gambling this way myself with a handsome farmer man of my own (successfully and not so,) I’ve whittled it down to 12 considerations for farming with your partner.


The Vision

If you’re going to start a farm with the person you love, odds are you’re doing so because both of you feel called to be in nature, support a local community, grow nutritious food, and or become a hermit in some capacity and this shared passion is important. Maybe both of you care about different aspects of this mud laden lifestyle, but coming up with a unified vision that paints the picture of the life you hope to share together is step number one. It will determine the type of operation you start and the great thing is, the vision can and will adapt as you age. The reason behind why you choose this path can be as basic as disappointing your parents who had hoped you would go into brain surgery, but it must be shared and it must represent both of you, equally.

50% Compatible

My dad gave me this gem of wisdom and tends to remind me of it every so often when my relationship wobbles and stresses abound. In his opinion, your ideal partner is actually only 50% compatible with you as a human being. That means that they will give a crap about only 50% of the things that you do and the other 50% will be interests that are almost unrelatable to you.

This sort of goes in the face of the idea of a “perfect soulmate” who you connect to deeply and romantically on every level, but the truth is you don’t want to marry yourself and you definitely don’t want to go into business with yourself. You need to partner up with someone who has strengths that complement your own and fill the gaps where your weaknesses wreak havoc.  Maybe you can’t get down with dressing up as a Game of Thrones character on the night of the season premiere, but their marketing skills may just save your business when your broccoli skills are exceeding demand.

9/1/2020 8:46:38 AM

Wow....is there any freaking reason on Earth that you, OldFashionedLiberal, do not want to evolve, recognize that times and people change, or that other people and their relationships and how writers title their articles is absolutely none of your incredibly judgmental business???

9/25/2019 7:43:21 PM

Is there any freaking reason on earth that this article could not have been titled, "12 Considerations for Farming with your Spouse..." even if it is just a throwback to those days when shacking up was something that embarrassed people just a wee little bit??

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